"Let's Talk"

"We need to talk. I will talk at you and you will listen. I am right, you are wrong or misinformed, and I will set you straight." Usually, "let's talk" means someone has not been heard and/or affirmed. When someone says "let's talk" to you, I suggest you listen without interruption while that person vents. Then ask a clarifying question or two and paraphrase your overall understanding of the issue(s). Simply receive the information and opinion without try to dismiss or refute it. Once the other party has verified your understanding as correct, state that you will get back to that party at a later time after you have thought about the comments, observations, and criticisms. On your own, consider what was said, accept what is valid for you (any reasonable perspective that can inform your own perspective), reject what is invalid (such as "always" and "never"). In a timely manner, perhaps the next day, approach the other party and say, "Let's talk."